ARE U A "PRACTICE WIFE"

Men are straight forward beings. They’re not really into verbal manipulation and double meanings. So girlfriend, if you are dating a man and he very plainly tells you that he doesn’t want to get married, let me CONFIRM, he doesn’t want to get married and he’s not waiting for you to try and change his mind.com It’s easy to cling to the hope that maybe he just doesn’t want to get married "right now" while you continue to get emotionally invested. Maybe after two or three years together he will suddenly change his mind, you think.no really.. you think? Ask any married men about their wives and the first time they met them. Usually the memory is recalled with a smile and a mention of “just knowing” she was the one. I’ve yet to have a guy friend tell me he firmly told his wife he didn’t want to get married but she hung around anyway and wore down his resistance. Another instance that causes much confusion in the smitten hearts of women is the man who solemnly swears to never marry… then marries the next girl he goes out with. DONT U FEEL STUPID...well you look stupid too..lol The problem here is the incomplete sentence. When a man gives you the “I don’t want to get married” line and quietly finishes his sentence in his head, perhaps you should have done the same! (together) “I don’t want to get married ??? yep go ahead and say it, TO YOU"..lol its really not funny but at some point you had to catch that memo. YOU just didn't repeat it to yourself as many times as needed to make it firmly sink in. Ouch. sorry,I know. It happens to the best of us. But it’s better to take his statement at face value in which it was intended than to dwell in the land of “maybe he’ll change his mind”. Next time you hear this statement don’t get offended at his honesty but also don’t go into denial that he just hasn’t experienced fully your mind blowing pussy either.( yeah, because yours is the best he ever had) Graciously and sincerely state you have different long term plans pick up your face and go. BUT HOLD UP, there is just one little problem, you've committed to this thing girl. you've made plans, invested in a year lease twice, you're cooking, cleaning, playing house (as the old folk say), "shacking". Do you leave, Do you stay? Well if you stay its important that you know who you are and of course, he's not going to tell you that.. so I will! "A practice wife" yep, that's you BOO! she is the woman a man dates right before he decides to or while waiting for the perfect time to and person to whom he wants to settle down with. You live together, you’re loving, but for some reason he’s not eager to go down the aisle. If this sounds like your relationship, read on for a few telltale signs. If you find that most of them are true, chances are he’s almost prime and ready to walk down the aisle — just not with you. Real Quick(cause I know you're getting mad)Big thanks to MadameNoire for theses amazing references. so, You’re Living Together And there’s no end in sight. You’re going through the motions like a married couple, but he never talks about making it official. You’ve Had A Lot of Problems He used to come home late, not clean up behind himself and spend too much time with his boys. Now he’s the perfect man — and you’re a nag for getting him there. He may just quit his arguing ex and move on to marry the next chick who never complains — because you taught him how living with a woman works. lol.Sometimes being ready to get married has a lot to do with age.(listen at yourself honey) In his early 20s or 30s he’ll still be satisfied with playing house. When you’re finally tired of his lack of commitment, he’ll be older, wiser and ready to settle down. Sometimes a practice wife comes with a practice kid. He may be trying out family responsibility with you to prepare to father a real family later on. His Friends Are All Married too. It’s another sign that he’s the marrying kind. You’re just not the wife he had in mind. If your relationship is on the rocks, he’ll be ready to join his friends in matrimony the next time he settles down. He Treats You Like His Wife. You share bills, share responsibilities and share a house. It just doesn’t seem like you’re working toward anything because you're not!. His Friend Don’t Take You Seriously You’ve been together for two years and living together for one. But not one of his friends cracks the usual “when are you two going to get married” jokes. That’s because, in private, he’s already let them know that he doesn’t see a wedding with you in his future. He’s Focused on His Paper He’s not in a financial position to get married right now.( that's what they all say) So a practice wife makes sense.( yeah YOU) Now he’s heading straight to the top of his game while your relationship is falling apart. When it’s all said and done, he’ll be ready for a real wife to go with his real career.. real soon! Look at you, cause he is..You’ve Got More Baggage Than He Does It’s a hard truth, but lots of men are only willing to get married when they feel like they’re upgrading. (are u the upgrade bag lady?)If you’ve got kids and lots of debt and he has neither, he may be waiting to put a ring on a woman with less on her plate. and if reality hasn't set in yet, REMEMBER,His Mother Doesn’t Like You. He may think you’re marriage material, but if his family doesn’t agree he’s unlikely to put a ring on it. You’ll just keep spinning your wheels until you give him an ultimatum and he has to show you the door. Now that he’s learned his lesson, he’ll make sure his mother likes his next girl so he feels comfortable walking down the aisle. Lets pause for a moment because I know that's a lot to take in. Now lets be honest, If things do not seem to be going anywhere, or if the subject of marriage hasn’t even been brought up at any point within almost a decade of seeing each other or living together, then you can most likely bet that he’s just dragging you along the convenience ride for sure. Men are programmed to achieve end results. If a man wants to marry you, he will make it happen. but keep in mind the ladder too. In the mean time lets take sometime and reevaluate ourselves, and how we are being perceived. Are we wasting time? Are we coming of pressed or needy? Swallow this pill ladies, make the necessary changes and consider this a lesson learned. Reality is the winner.