Co-Create your 2014: Manifest the life YOU want through Affirmation!

developing a positive mindset is one of the most powerful life strategies there is. By using powerful positive thinking techniques, visualizations and positive affirmations, it is possible to achieve whatever you want. Professionals and business people can use these techniques to develop personal power or gain a competitive edge. At a personal level it will transform your life, your health and renew the joy and passion for life. Imagine waking up each morning, bursting with excitement, energy and joy for the new day! It really is that powerful... Affirmations. I’m sure you’ve heard about them. An affirmation is, simply, positive self-talk. It’s a statement about ourselves or our situation, phrased in the present tense as if the statement is already true. Affirmations work to help us change. I’d like to share with you one method to start creating very personal affirmations. 1.Identify your negative self-talk and beliefs. 2.Create affirmations out of those beliefs. 3.Begin using the new affirmations. 4.See the “magic” gradually unfold. 1. Identify your negative self-talk and beliefs. Do this in handwriting, not with a computer. Connecting your physical self with your neurons and psyche and intuition is important here. What our bodies do, our subconscious learns from. Fold a piece of lined paper in half lengthwise, and then unfold it. Down the left side, write a list of those self-limiting statements you’ve been thinking and saying. “I can’t afford a vacation.” Or “It’s hard to lose weight.” Or “I’ll never meet the right guy/woman for me.” Stick to one theme or personal issue on this first list. Write everything that comes to mind on the topic. Don’t think, just be spontaneous and real. It needs to be a stream-of-consciousness set of statements. Then spend a few days listening closely to yourself, to what you’re saying, thinking. Ask a friend to listen, too. Add every negative self-talk statement to your list as it comes up. After you think you’ve written them all, wait. More will come. As you empty out the top layer in your mind, the next layer will be revealed and released. 2. Create some affirmations out of those beliefs. This next part is not easy, but you can do it! You are going to write some new statements. You may feel huge resistance as you do it. Maybe you won’t believe a thing you write. Perhaps you’ll feel discouraged. You’ll probably think it’s weird. But humor me, just like my students did. Down the right side of your paper, across from each left-side statement, write a new one that transforms that negative statement into a positive. Examples: •“I can’t afford a vacation” becomes “I can afford to take a nice vacation.” •“It’s hard to lose weight” becomes “Losing weight is easy for me.” •“I can’t save any money” becomes “I’m good at saving money.” •“I’ll never meet the right guy/woman” could become “I’m open to new relationships” or “I’m ready to meet my perfect mate.” The new statements must be in the present tense. Write “I am…” rather than “I will be…” or “I’m going to be…” Avoid using the word “try” because “I’m trying” is a self-perpetuating statement. To get around your disbelief about writing something that feels untrue and seems impossible, you can write things like “I’m learning to….” and “I’m getting better at….” It’s still present tense, still a positive affirmation. Something like “I’m getting better at saving money” might feel better than “I’m good at saving money.” 3. Begin using the new affirmation statements. Fold the paper in half again. Never again read the left side. Ignore it forever. Post the folded paper, positive-statements on top, somewhere you’ll see it often. Above the toilet paper roll. Over the kitchen sink. Read your affirmations from time to time, but there’s no need to dwell on your list. It is simply an occasional reminder that you’re transforming your thinking. If you catch yourself thinking or saying any of your old (negative) beliefs, stop yourself. Transform it into the positive, right then and there. Ask your family and friends to help by simply pointing out any negative self-descriptions when you say them. When they do, transform the negative to the positive immediately, and say the new statement aloud to them. You’re literally changing your mind. 4. See the “magic” gradually unfold. The “magic” will happen, if you do the first three tasks. Truly! I’ve done this ever since I learned how, and I promise you it absolutely works. I have a good and happy life and things generally go my way. I believe it’s because I do this kind of work ongoingly. Soon you will not only say you’re good at handling money (or whatever your issue is), but you’ll also begin to believe it and—here’s the magic—one day you’ll notice that you are good at it! The negative statements will gradually disappear from your mind. If you stick with this, what’s absolutely true is that: •When you write it, the magic begins. •After you write it, you can start reading it. •When you start reading it, you’ll be able to start saying it. •When you start saying it, you start hearing it. •When you start hearing it, you start to believe it. •When you believe it, things begin to change. •When things begin to change, you will understand. And believe. "Manifest your dreams NOW! Live the life you Want and Deserve" "Positive Affirmations can manifest your dreams" Re-program your thinking, let go of the negative patterns that have been sabotaging you and adopt powerful success techniques to bring you what you want.

The pleasure principal: masturbation & your relationship.

This weeks mini blog involves the opinion of 3 men who choose to remain unknown.(I've used fake names instead). This week they answer the following: “Why do men masturbate in relationships, even when the sex is good and regular?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Every guy has a regular masturbation frequency (RMF) that is more or less unchangeable (though over the long-term, factors which usually have nothing to do with sex — like age or stress — can influence it). Take however many orgasms a guy’s already having with his partner and multiply it by his RMF — that’s how much a guy will masturbate. For example, a friend tells you his RMF is 1.3, so if he’s had a total of 3 orgasms with his partner in the past week, you multiply that by 1.3 to get the number of times he’ll want to masturbate that week (about 4). Now, some guys are high (RMF=2 or more) and others are low (RMF=1 or less!). But even if he has a really low RMF, like .25, that still means he’ll want to masturbate once after he’s had sex five times with his partner that week. So don’t focus on whether or not he’s masturbating: it’s a given. Instead, engage him on what he’s doing while he’s masturbating — what he’s looking at, or imagining, or fantasizing about. That’s where you’ll learn about your guy. Gay Committed Guy (Mark): Perhaps the most obvious answer would be “Why shouldn’t they?” (As long as it’s not interfering with the sex — “Sorry, honey, I’ve already come three times today.”) No, wait, the most obvious answer is, “Because they’re men.” I’m sure, when it’s all over with, that people don’t look back on their lives, regardless of gender, and wish they’d had fewer orgasms. Also, if it’s meant to be a monogamous relationship, better he should have the extra fun with himself than with some third (or fourth, etc.) party(-ies). Straight Single Guy (Max): While it’s hard to believe, I think that most men view masturbation (which we’re addicted to, by the way) as completely separate from our sex lives. When you’re living the solo sex life, you’ve got your fantasies as well as hormones to answer to. The only solution is masturbation. Many turn to pornography. It’s sad. I understand then, that it must be confusing to women when we continue to masturbate, even while having great and consistent sex, after you’ve saved us from our lonely and always wanting existence. Unfortunately, no matter how much we may love our lady friend and the sex that we have with her, it’s incredibly hard to fulfill our voyeuristic and most fantastic desires. We don’t want to cheat (most of us) and yet we have thoughts of other girls, other places and impossible situations. Thus, we masturbate. It’s the eternal answer to everything that plagues men. Don’t take it as an insult to your skills in bed, because trust me: You don’t want to do the things that we’re thinking about when masturbating. Some people wonder if masturbating will decrease a person’s desire to have sex with a relationship partner. In general, the answer to this question is no. Frequency of masturbation is usually a reflection of a person’s overall level of sexual appetite. So, a person who masturbates is also likely to have an equally strong desire for sexual activity with his or her partner. If one partner masturbates, it does not mean that he or she does not have a desire to engage in sexual activity with the other partner. If anything, masturbation can be seen as reflecting a healthy appetite for sex which is likely to also express itself in desire for sex with the partner. Although, in general, if one or both partners masturbate on a regular basis it is unlikely to negatively impact on the frequency or quality of sexual activity within a relationship, there are exceptions. First, a person who masturbates so frequently that it interferes with other important aspects of his or her life (e.g., work, school, social activities) will likely also find that excessively frequent masturbation interferes with their intimate personal relationships. Second, masturbating to orgasm immediately before engaging in sexual activity with a partner is likely to somewhat reduce the speed and intensity of sexual response when having sex. Couples may masturbate each other (called mutual masturbation) or in front of each other. This gives them a way to learn about each other’s sexual response. It is also a way for couples to be sexually intimate if they are uncomfortable with, or not ready to engage in other sexual behaviours such as oral sex or vaginal or anal intercourse. Mutual masturbation also has a much lower risk of sexual transmitted infection than these other sexual behaviors. So, is masturbation a true relationship killer? Thanks for your question. I agree that masturbation is an important topic to address and it’s one that interests a lot of people. Aside from female orgasm, self-love is perhaps the most frequent issue asked about. The two most common things that come up with respect to masturbation are fears about whether this behavior is bad for one’s health and whether it creates relationship problems. Let’s take a moment to clear up these concerns. As a starting point, it’s useful to acknowledge that masturbation is something that the vast majority of men and women have done at some point in their lives.1 Thus, there is nothing inherently unusual or atypical about pleasuring oneself. Furthermore, there is absolutely no evidence that masturbation is harmful to one’s health. In fact, if anything, masturbation tends to be linked to better (not worse) physical and psychological well-being! For example, among women, research finds that masturbation is linked to higher self-esteem2 and, among men, it is linked to a lower risk of developing prostate cancer.3 There is also no evidence supporting the urban legends that touching oneself leads to blindness, hairy palms, or tiny genitals. In short, it seems that masturbators have nothing to worry about when it comes to their personal health. What about masturbation and relationships? Although one might intuitively assume that single people masturbate more than those who are partnered, research has actually found the converse. You may find this surprising, but masturbation is more common among people in relationships compared to those who are single.4 Masturbation therefore appears to be a complement to an active sex life, rather than a substitute for having one. Despite the increased frequency of masturbation in relationships, there are some people who view their romantic partners’ solo sexual pursuits negatively (e.g., they may see it as a sign that their partner is no longer sexually interested in them). However, in the vast majority of cases, this concern is probably not warranted. Masturbation is a normal activity within relationships and, as long as it’s not completely displacing partnered sexual activity, it is not necessarily problematic. Thus, it would be wise not to jump to the conclusion that just because your partner is practicing self-love that they love you any less.

"Give me sum head" "Give me sum head"

Part of a healthy, monogamous, and sexual relationship requires a healthy and equal amount of chemistry, passion, communication, and nasty. But, if you find yourself in need of a little motivation by the start of the week, after a dry weekend, NEVER FEAR! Captain "wet the bed" is here!! LMAO (and does) Now, Im sure some of you are turning your little chunky noses up at this blog. and that's ok with us! oh yeah, & when I say us, I mean the rest of us humans who aren't afraid to admit that we like, enjoy, and are always open to new and exciting ways to make ourselves better - and that includes sexually. We are not appalled and completely shocked (stop acting) over the things that are in this blog or for that matter, the things to come. We recognize that in life (when it comes to growing) sometimes it is not about the messenger but rather the message. Any information that adds to "the brand" is a good thing , even if it comes from a blog . we are open minded therefore "winners"! NOW, as for u judgmental losers, please get off my blog. I am so excited to ANNOUNCE our NEW mini Blog series: KINKY TIP OF THE WEEK! (please try this at home) Each week AAGW will be highlighting some amazing tips and advice to assist you with your intentions to continue to pleasure your partner and "rock the bed". As always, if you want to add to, take away, or simply complain about, feel free to drop me a line at aagwquestions@gmail.com or inbox me of course. In the mean time, enjoy and try some of the easy fix tips and extras to get the fire going again and again and again.. to kick off this weeks BLOG & KT of the week we welcome an email i got about 4 days ago . she writes, My husband and I have been married for 2 years, together for 4. our sex life has always been great, but lately I feel that I am nothing more than a mouth for him.("yes I laughed too") He wants oral sex everyday, and though I didn't mind it, it seems that he has no emotions about it, no cuddling, no kissing, just him pulling it out and saying suck me. I hate it because I need the emotional aspect of it. I give him a BJ every time before sex, (bj.. luv it) and it is very rare that he even touches me before we have sex. What can I do to make my husband understand that I love him and desire him, but when he just wants me to suck him, I feel so left out? *** ok ok ok, first let me say that I am in no way a doctor or a sex expert but I do have an honest perspective and just like my other blogs I did poll and I have the opinion of those persons as well. Now all together you guys have been in a relationship for 6 years. I'm sure the topic of "head" didn't just POP(im on a roll)up! My moma use to tell me, what you did to get him will be necessary to keep him. ***OFF THE RECORD(pause) 10 points to you and your mouth! he likes it so clearly its good-you know what you're doing.*** I think its clear to say that you knew and still know about his sexual needs and at some point putting on a show wasn't a problem. yet, now it is. Which leads me to believe that the issue isn't him ( he's happy) the issue is you. When we start any type of relationship, it is our responsibility to teach people how we want to be treated and what we expect.. yes there is recovery in this "habit that YOU started" first we have to admit that we started it. Communication is the answer. communicate with your partner about how you did and still do enjoy pleasing him but, don't forget the include your needs in return. sex is a give and take, the beauty of it comes in when it is done mutually and with out asking. Let him know how his approach makes you feel and then include how he can change it. Be clear! Now lets keep in mind that he is a man and to much of the "pompon circumstance" could very well kill the fantasy for him. Ultimately ending in him not being satisfied! Compromise is key to this victory. I did survey a few men aged 27-34 and with the exception of those who are completely cut off from mouth to skin pleasure, LMAO, they agree that oral sex is important to their sexual satisfaction even more so, if she starts off giving it then YES! it is expected to continue. FYI:Giving head saves lives! I’m not joking people, the health benefits are many. Studies show that Giving your man “head” can lower blood pressure, relieve stress, and even lower the risk of colon and prostate cancer. YES BOO, all that with no medication, just some good old-fashioned “head” : ) Show him you really care! SUCK HIS DICK! Which brings us to the tip of the week, I've been told that giving your man head twice a day opens the lines of communication... SO TRY IT: before or after spark up a good conversation the key is to assume the position. If you typically give head while in bed, catch him while he's chilling. Pull his paints down and start talking, let him know that you want to play around but first you would like to talk about something, or maybe right after while he's relaxed.. If on the couch seems better for you, GET ON YO KNEES BOO, I'm sure that when u assume the position you will immediately grab his attention. Cant wait for Fridays comments!!! ohhh yeah and for those of YOU who need a lil help, This cool tip comes from an anonymous friend who asked to be called goldenK31... she writes: This little blowjob tip is something you can sprinkle into your “ordinary routine”, BUT it is not something you want to base your whole shabang on. -Start at the base of his cock.( I hate that word by the way) Slowly lick your way up his shaft, almost like you would do if you had a lollipop. Then, when you’re at the top of his shaft, just beneath his head, swallow as much of his cock(no no word) as you can in one taking. This will definitely make your man go crazy. Thanks so much to everyone who made this topic possible... til next week

ARE U A "PRACTICE WIFE"

Men are straight forward beings. They’re not really into verbal manipulation and double meanings. So girlfriend, if you are dating a man and he very plainly tells you that he doesn’t want to get married, let me CONFIRM, he doesn’t want to get married and he’s not waiting for you to try and change his mind.com It’s easy to cling to the hope that maybe he just doesn’t want to get married "right now" while you continue to get emotionally invested. Maybe after two or three years together he will suddenly change his mind, you think.no really.. you think? Ask any married men about their wives and the first time they met them. Usually the memory is recalled with a smile and a mention of “just knowing” she was the one. I’ve yet to have a guy friend tell me he firmly told his wife he didn’t want to get married but she hung around anyway and wore down his resistance. Another instance that causes much confusion in the smitten hearts of women is the man who solemnly swears to never marry… then marries the next girl he goes out with. DONT U FEEL STUPID...well you look stupid too..lol The problem here is the incomplete sentence. When a man gives you the “I don’t want to get married” line and quietly finishes his sentence in his head, perhaps you should have done the same! (together) “I don’t want to get married ??? yep go ahead and say it, TO YOU"..lol its really not funny but at some point you had to catch that memo. YOU just didn't repeat it to yourself as many times as needed to make it firmly sink in. Ouch. sorry,I know. It happens to the best of us. But it’s better to take his statement at face value in which it was intended than to dwell in the land of “maybe he’ll change his mind”. Next time you hear this statement don’t get offended at his honesty but also don’t go into denial that he just hasn’t experienced fully your mind blowing pussy either.( yeah, because yours is the best he ever had) Graciously and sincerely state you have different long term plans pick up your face and go. BUT HOLD UP, there is just one little problem, you've committed to this thing girl. you've made plans, invested in a year lease twice, you're cooking, cleaning, playing house (as the old folk say), "shacking". Do you leave, Do you stay? Well if you stay its important that you know who you are and of course, he's not going to tell you that.. so I will! "A practice wife" yep, that's you BOO! she is the woman a man dates right before he decides to or while waiting for the perfect time to and person to whom he wants to settle down with. You live together, you’re loving, but for some reason he’s not eager to go down the aisle. If this sounds like your relationship, read on for a few telltale signs. If you find that most of them are true, chances are he’s almost prime and ready to walk down the aisle — just not with you. Real Quick(cause I know you're getting mad)Big thanks to MadameNoire for theses amazing references. so, You’re Living Together And there’s no end in sight. You’re going through the motions like a married couple, but he never talks about making it official. You’ve Had A Lot of Problems He used to come home late, not clean up behind himself and spend too much time with his boys. Now he’s the perfect man — and you’re a nag for getting him there. He may just quit his arguing ex and move on to marry the next chick who never complains — because you taught him how living with a woman works. lol.Sometimes being ready to get married has a lot to do with age.(listen at yourself honey) In his early 20s or 30s he’ll still be satisfied with playing house. When you’re finally tired of his lack of commitment, he’ll be older, wiser and ready to settle down. Sometimes a practice wife comes with a practice kid. He may be trying out family responsibility with you to prepare to father a real family later on. His Friends Are All Married too. It’s another sign that he’s the marrying kind. You’re just not the wife he had in mind. If your relationship is on the rocks, he’ll be ready to join his friends in matrimony the next time he settles down. He Treats You Like His Wife. You share bills, share responsibilities and share a house. It just doesn’t seem like you’re working toward anything because you're not!. His Friend Don’t Take You Seriously You’ve been together for two years and living together for one. But not one of his friends cracks the usual “when are you two going to get married” jokes. That’s because, in private, he’s already let them know that he doesn’t see a wedding with you in his future. He’s Focused on His Paper He’s not in a financial position to get married right now.( that's what they all say) So a practice wife makes sense.( yeah YOU) Now he’s heading straight to the top of his game while your relationship is falling apart. When it’s all said and done, he’ll be ready for a real wife to go with his real career.. real soon! Look at you, cause he is..You’ve Got More Baggage Than He Does It’s a hard truth, but lots of men are only willing to get married when they feel like they’re upgrading. (are u the upgrade bag lady?)If you’ve got kids and lots of debt and he has neither, he may be waiting to put a ring on a woman with less on her plate. and if reality hasn't set in yet, REMEMBER,His Mother Doesn’t Like You. He may think you’re marriage material, but if his family doesn’t agree he’s unlikely to put a ring on it. You’ll just keep spinning your wheels until you give him an ultimatum and he has to show you the door. Now that he’s learned his lesson, he’ll make sure his mother likes his next girl so he feels comfortable walking down the aisle. Lets pause for a moment because I know that's a lot to take in. Now lets be honest, If things do not seem to be going anywhere, or if the subject of marriage hasn’t even been brought up at any point within almost a decade of seeing each other or living together, then you can most likely bet that he’s just dragging you along the convenience ride for sure. Men are programmed to achieve end results. If a man wants to marry you, he will make it happen. but keep in mind the ladder too. In the mean time lets take sometime and reevaluate ourselves, and how we are being perceived. Are we wasting time? Are we coming of pressed or needy? Swallow this pill ladies, make the necessary changes and consider this a lesson learned. Reality is the winner.

It's more than A Religion, It's A RELATIONSHIP

I believe that God wants to have a relationship with everyone on earth and to see them come to salvation.BUT, I don't believe in religion. I am not religious. Now don't get me wrong. There are lots of great religious men and women doing fabulous things: building communities of believers that love God, serving their fellow man, advancing the kingdom of God, all that stuff. But religion is not God. It is merely a system of beliefs advocated by those who do their best (in most cases) to adhere to the principles of scripture. Even Christianity is about people and made up of people. In that sense, it is highly fallible.OMG LATOYA , why do you say that ?Because people love to be part of something. I love to be part of something. Being a part of something bigger than the self helps to give life meaning. Christianity and the activities and ministry of the local church helps to add meaning to the lives of many people. But it also distracts them sometimes from the real purpose of our existence. God created us for relationship. He wants to walk with us, talk with us, help us to learn and grow. We are spiritual beings, created to know God. One of the problems I see with Christianity as a religion is that it takes its focus off of the relationship and puts it onto the "lifestyle" of Christians. There is a Christian lifestyle - common dos and don'ts, ways of talking and behaving, an expected political outlook - and unfortunately, a common critical eye towards those who believe differently and act differently. In this I find the biggest fault with Christianity - the focus on sin, both personal sin and the sin of others. Jesus Christ did not come and die on the cross to get us to stop sinning. He came to set us free from sin. He came, not to put our focus on sin, but to take our focus off of it. God wants our focus to be on Him, not on the rules. I don't lay down a law against my wife. We have a relationship, we love each other, and learn and grow together. Rules don't make that relationship work, love does. God wants the same thing to be true with the relationship He has with us. He wants it to be about love, not sin, not punishment, not getting it right every time, but learning and moving forward. "And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love." (1 Cor 13:13) Love is mankind's greatest motivator. If anything stirs the heart of man, it is the desire for love. You see it everywhere - movies, books, music, poetry, art. We were made for relationship, and the beginning of any successful relationship is God. So does God want us to sin? Absolutely not. The wages of sin is death. It hurts us dreadfully to sin. But God wants us to be able to let it go and move on. He wants to lead us out of sin as we commune with Him in a love relationship - not because we are fearful of hell or the criticism of fellow Christians. God wants to teach us to avoid sin because it is an assault on the relationship He has with us and because it is an assault on life itself. God has good plans for us and sin prevents Him from leading us into that blessing. Sin is the choice to do something our way, contrary to the leadership of God. God is the author of life and knows what it takes to provide for life. Sin produces death because it is contrary to God and to His wisdom. Follow God and live - that message is everywhere in the bible. We often sin because we hurt. All people need love, acceptance, and leadership. God promises to meet all of those needs through the Sprit - He is our comfort (love), provides fellowship (acceptance), and offers counsel (leadership). When we connect with God, we can receive all of these things and be made whole. Our hearts can be filled, so to speak. When we are disconnected from God, our hearts become empty. It's at this time that we often turn to sin as a remedy for the pain of an empty heart. Only the love of God can fill an empty heart. Sin is man's attempt to fill his own heart; to find a little relief; to escape the pain of life. As we grow in our relationship with God, we learn how to recognize when we are disconnected from God by the desire for sin that sometimes rises within. We can sense our own "heart level" and use that nudge to step back into fellowship with God. So why did Israel have the law? The bible says in Gal 3:19 that it was "added because of transgressions till the Seed should come." And in verse 24 that it "was our tutor to bring us to Christ." Like a child needs rules and laws provided by the parents for protection - Israel needed those laws because they had very little love for God and weren't interested in pursuing a relationship with Him. God made a promise to Abraham (Gen 22:18) that He intended to keep. Specifically, God promised that from Abraham's descendents a savior would come that would bless the entire world. Israel was the promised vessel through which Jesus Christ would come. If Israel didn't follow God, like so many other ancient nations, they would cease to exist. God gave them the law to protect them and hence His ability to keep His promise to Abraham. He didn't give the law to other nations and He doesn't give the law to us. The law was not God's wish - it was added because of Israel's sin. God has no love for the law. The law had a purpose; that purpose has been fulfilled - Christ has come. Our job on earth is to reach the lost. Legalism prevents us from doing so and focuses us on the sin of others rather than on ways to love them. Commenting or pointing out the sin of others never led them to Christ. Its love that draws people, not condemnation, not the fear of hell. Have a relationship with someone, find out what moves them, get interested in that. If you want to save them - love them. The Holy Spirit is already convicting them of their sin and you'll have opportunities to teach them as they grow in their relationship with God and learn to listen to the Holy Spirit. We are called to exhort, edify, and comfort (1 Cor 14:3) - not criticize.

The Spiritual Awakening 101("what the hell is it"?)

A spiritual awakening is when one has become aware and has awakened or who is going through the stages of an awakening. They will become more aware of themselves on a much deeper and higher level and what is real. The person going through the awakening will suddenly have a deeper awareness of what is going on around them and of themselves and they will be more aware of their life experiences and the lessons they have learned from these experiences and the reasons why. The person will start to feel more at one with themselves and everything around them and they may feel more contented and at peace with their surroundings, themselves and with other people. The person will start to accept who they are and let go of any hurt, anger and negative feelings that they had towards their life and people and they will gradually go through a healing process of their heart, soul and mind. The person will suddenly start seeing the world in a different way and their previous views and opinions may change drastically. A spiritual awakening can be very life changing for a person especially if that person was not spiritual to begin with. An awakening can strip a person of previous beliefs, feelings and life views causing them to see the world and themselves in a whole new light. Well being a positive experience towards the end of the awakening, at first the awakening can be quite disruptive, shocking and upsetting to a person and their life because it forces them to take a deeper a look at themselves, face their fears, re-live any bad experiences and memories and forces them to see things in a way that they previously never thought. The awakening can be very confusing and so powerful that the person may question themselves and even their sanity due to the symptoms that occur during the awakening. These kinds of changes can be quite unsettling at first and may take many months or even years of soul searching before the person starts to feel more at one and have feelings of serenity. A spiritual awakening can be spontaneous or caused by a profound spiritual experience or an event in a person’s life, a loss or a near death experience. The spiritual awakening process sparks the activation of awareness and once someone have completed their spiritual awakening and they go and look back on their life before the awakening began they may see how much they were just existing in robot mode, a spiritual awakening brings them out of this robot mode and in to awareness mode which wakes them up and they start to exist with a new and positive lease of life. When a person begins their spiritual awakening they will go through different stages of the awakening before they get to the last stage which will be completion of the spiritual awakening. Because everyone is different and reacts differently to a spiritual awakening the time frame of each stage of the awakening will vary from one person to the next. A spiritual awakening can take days or even years till the awakening process is completed. Stage 0 Awareness has not begun. In this stage the person has no spiritual awareness but eventually everyone will then start at stage 1 which is when the spiritual awakening begins and which will then go on to lead to higher awareness being achieved by stage 5. The awareness may or may not begin in their current lifetime but it will happen eventually if not in this lifetime but another. Stage 1 Trigger/spontaneous awakening. A spiritual awakening is often triggered by something experienced which had a deep effect in the mind of the person going through the awakening but an awakening can also happen spontaneously too. A trigger can be the loss of a loved one, a near death experience, a spiritual experience or some other event or situation that had a profound effect on the person going through the awakening. Most spiritual awakenings are caused through some sort of shock event or experience that had a deep effect on the person’s soul. The spiritual awakening now begins brought on either through a trigger event or spontaneously. Stage 2 Shock and upheaval. The start of the spiritual awakening will be a huge shock to the system especially if it was triggered by an event such as the loss of a loved one or a near death experience. The person going through the awakening will experience a revelation and a realisation which may be very overwhelming emotionally for them and the person will start to become aware in a way they never was before. They will now begin to question things in a serious way such as life and death, the afterlife, God, spirituality, their own life and lives of others, the world they live in and themselves and the event that triggered their awakening. Awareness is now activated and the beginning of the awareness process now starts in stage 2 of the spiritual awakening. Stage 3 Chakras begin to open. In stage 3 of the awakening the chakras will now begin to open one at a time as energy pulses through each of the 7 chakras, the energy centres of the body. The opening of each chakra will now cause the symptoms of the spiritual awakening below. The symptoms can either be mild or life affecting and it is in stage 3 where people may begin to even question their own sanity due to the intensity of the symptoms. Stage 3 of the awakening is for the most the hardest of all the stages because of the affect the symptoms can have on the person physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.Stage 3 can be dramatic and traumatic and can take its toll on the mind and body and It can be a very confusing and disruptive time. It is in stage 3 that you will really need to take care of yourself, take lots of rest when possible and eat and drink well. If the emotional and mental symptoms of the awakening is too much to bare because of old and difficult memories cropping up or because you are doubting and worrying about what is happening to you it may help to speak to someone who can help you deal with these feelings. There are lots of spiritual forums online where you can find like-minded people to speak to if you can’t talk to anyone else at home but it is important that if stage 3 is affecting your life in such a way where you are struggling to do day to day stuff then it may be worth speaking to a GP or a councillor because stage 3 is when you will start to take a deeper look at yourself which for some may be very hard to cope with if they already have low self- esteem, confidence and a negative view on themselves and also this stage may cause upsetting memories to resurface which may be too painful to deal with by self. Awareness continues as the chakras begin to open one by one causing many physical, emotional, mental and spiritual symptoms. Stage 4 Healing process begins. Once the difficulties of stage 3 is almost over the person going through the spiritual awakening will now go through a healing process of the body and the mind. After all the disruption of stage 3, stage 4 will be a welcome relief. It is in stage 4 when the person will now start to accept who they are, their past, their life, their experiences and they will begin to love themselves because they will now be learning acceptance not just with themselves but with life in general without feeling bitter and resentful. They will also start to lose all the anger, hurt, pain and judgements that they have been carrying around not only at themselves but towards other people too. They will begin to see themselves, others and the world they live in, in a whole new and positive light and they may now start to change their views and opinions on life and on others that they had previously before. They are continuing to become aware and will go through a huge and positive transformation in this stage. The symptoms from stage 3 have now started to calm down but there will still be many symptoms but they should be easier to handle now as the body goes through the healing process. Awareness continues as the healing process now begins. Stage 5 Spiritual awakening completed. In stage 5 the spiritual awakening has now completed and the person now has awareness like they have never before. This stage is a wonderful stage to be in because it will turn a person’s life around in a complete and positive way. The person will now feel happier with who they are and will accept and love who they are, they will not be quick to judge others but will now have compassion and empathy towards other people, animals and nature. In stage 5 they will have now realised that they are connected to every living thing on this planet and beyond. They will realise that nothing and no one is separate and that we were all created together by the same source, and that even though people may have different names for that source, it is still the same source which we all came from and will go back to eventually. The spiritual awakening process is now completed and although the person is now awakened they will continue to become more aware as they progress through their life learning new lessons and developing their soul but now with a new and different prospective than they had before. Symptoms of a spiritual awakening Physical symptoms 1) Tingling hands or feet 2) Heart palpitations/racing heart 3) Tingling in the third eye area located in between the eyes 4) Warm palms or feet 5) Headaches, backaches and general aches and pains which are not caused by an illness 6) Changes in weight and eating habits 7) Food intolerances and allergies which was once never a problem 8) Skin eruptions, rashes, body tingling and itchy skin 9) Pain, numbness and feelings of vibration and electricity going through the body 10) Dizzy spells and a feeling of lightness 11) Feeling more tired and needing to rest a lot more than normal 12) Memory loss and forgetfulness 13) Changes in energy levels 14) A feeling of having waves of energy going through the body 15) A feeling of having brain fog 16) Feelings of pressure inside the head. Head may feel like it might explode 17) Night sweats 18) Enhancement of physical senses such as smell, sight and hearing 19) May look younger 20) Hair and nails may grow at a faster rate 21) Changes in sleep patterns. May experience restless sleep and waking up two or three times during the night 22) Changes in bowel movements. May have bouts of diarrhea 23) Sinus and ear trouble Emotional symptoms 1) Sudden waves of emotions 2) Sudden feelings of sadness then happiness, depression or elation 3) A feeling of being on an emotional roller coaster ride 4) Intense mood swings 5) Supressed and forgotten memories and old stuff may suddenly resurface causing waves of sad or happy emotions 6) Emotional confusion 7) Feelings of great joy and bliss 8) Crying outbursts without a reason 9) Wanting to withdrawal from family and friends 10) Feelings of loneliness, disconnection and being different from others 11) Loss of motivation and may feel like not doing anything and feel there is no point 12) Feeling irritable, angry and impatient 13) Feeling that your life is out of control and is in a mess Mental symptoms 1) A feeling of losing the mind 2) A feeling of going insane and losing control 3) Feelings of fear 4) May suddenly hear voices that don’t feel is coming from yourself 5) May feel like you are going crazy at times Spiritual symptoms 1) Dreams may be more vivid and intense. May have very spiritual dreams and dreams of angels, guides and deceased loved ones 2) May suddenly be able to hear and communicate with guides, angels and deceased loved ones 3) May feel more empathetic and sensitive towards other people’s feelings 4) Questioning life and why you are here and have an intense feeling and urge to find out what your life purpose is 5) A feeling of being different suddenly from friends and family 6) May realise what your life purpose is and go on to fulfil it 7) Synchronicity and coincidences may start to occur all around you 8) A feeling of being a different person to previously 9) Paranormal activity, sensing presences, seeing guides, angels, deceased loved ones and other spirit beings and spirit lights and a higher awareness of the spiritual world 10) Feeling closer to animals and nature and at one with everything 11) Has an intense urge to find your soul mate/twinflame 12) You may start to experience conscious and spontaneous out of body experiences (OBEs) 13) Has a higher awareness, knowing and perception of things 14) You may drop old friends that you have outgrown and make new ones who feel the same way you do now 15) You may start to see colours in your mind’s eye and in peripheral vision 16) Suddenly find yourself interested in healing, crystals, tarot cards and other forms of divination and of spiritual topics 17) You may want to start taking better care of your body and start eating healthily and exercising more 18) May become aware of psychic gifts, healing abilities and other gifts that previously was unaware off and have the urge to use them 19) Has a strong urge to spread awareness and share personal experiences with others and speak your truth 20) You may experience the blue pearl-this is a tiny blue dot seen in the mind’s eye or peripheral vision or directly in front of you 21) Teachers or people who can advise and help you with your spiritual journal may suddenly turn up 22) An intense urge to discover spiritual truths and yearning for meaning and purpose 23) Wanting to make life changes, breaking old habits and routines and starting new more fulfilling things

Mini relationship series topic 1: Are You Carrying Emotional Baggage

Since it is impossible for your partner to ever be perfect enough to not trigger your baggage claim, one must unpack from a long trip before packing for another one .

"( Uhhhh HELLO)"

Whether you’ve dated a long line of losers, been cheated on or just suffered a run of bad luck in the relationship field, it’s easy to hold onto your past hurts and carry negative baggage into your next relationship. However, these lingering issues from the past can have a powerful impact on your future – unless you learn how to let go and move forward. Sydney-based relationship counsellor Clinton Power says being unable to ditch negative relationship baggage is one of the main reasons people seek out his services. For this blog , i reviewed some of his files and to be honest, I agree with his take on the subject matter.

 NOW before  i continue, this blog topic comes from a lady who prefers to remain anonymous however, she is  a 36 year old women ;mother of 2 boys ; divorced. Lets call her lollipop. LOL!  Lollipop says that she's been dating now for 4 years and has grown sick and tired. her desire to be married again is still strong, but she doesn't know what she is doing wrong. She admits that even though years have past, it's so easy for men to remind her of her husband and the pain he caused. What's wrong? 

 Well lollipop, the name of this game is called HEAling. In order to clear out our excess baggage we need to acknowledge what caused the hurt, and then be prepared to open ourselves up and be vulnerable in a relationship.Stepping back and identifying the particular aspects of our personality that are making us hold onto our past can be the key to success, and overall it shows us what major areas of who we are got  hit the worst with the "bull shit bomb".“If you’ve been cheated on ( raise your hand if you've road that train before) and are looking at your new relationship through that  same ugly microscope, your new partner won’t feel trusted and may start to respond by being secretive and confirming your worst fears, "I myself just recently had to learn  to recognise these patterns and working to change them to a more positive form of relating is one way that you can use your new

relationship as a form of healing. The hardest lesson for me to except was that if I continued to stay  stuck in my past - it clearly meant I'm wasn't  ready to move into the future – but it was possible, and easy to do once I decided to let go and just do it.

Ok lets go deep for a minute. Could it be that your "baggage" goes a little deeper than your past relationship. What issues did you have before you made the choice to get in this toxic relationship anyway? Chances are you still got them honey boo boo ;Which could be the reason WHY you are still moving from toxic to toxic; it just so happen one was longer than the other. Lol! It really sucked to learn that the person I married really wasn't the person for me IN THE FIRST DAMN PLACE! I was just looking outward for inward completion. See, until we recognize why we eat as we do, we’ll never break free enough to control our eating habits! Face it, living through an awkward puberty or in a broken home isn’t easy. Years of dealing with being second best or misunderstood had to eventually come out. "COME ON , did u really think that shit would go away like that.."Sometimes our favorite memories, perhaps Mom frying chicken or eating at grandma's  on sundays after church seemed to comfort us and provide the emotional security that’s  now missing in our grownup lives.Forgiveness is challenging and forgiving yourself is sometimes hardest! Im sure there are a lot of us who would  want to go back and erase something done or said, causing pain to others?  Excepting that we as humans have faults allow us to learn from the past and strive for a better future, not just for ourselves but, for our children as well. Make a choice to stop the cycle. We aren’t perfect and God doesn’t expect perfection from us.One of the toughest challenges we are faced with is to forgive others who have betrayed or deeply harmed us and that includes even family. 

(yes I said it) Sometimes our minds just can’t forget the inner pain we suffered due to something that someone said or did. But being “good little children”  in my day we didn’t talk back, so those feelings were stuffed inside.  Innately as adults, we've found ways to numb that pain through reckless behavior, drinking drugs, emotional eating, or toxic relationships. But holding on to the sorrow we  have experienced is another way to gather self centered attention as well.- Saving that for another blog-  Don’t you know someone in your life who loves to be the center of attention?  I do, hell at one point that somebody was me. Change, like salvation, must come from within! Set yourself free from your own baggage  before you start digging in your potential partners. It’s not an easy process, but certainly worth the journey.  

*** thank u so much for reading, and thank you lollipop for sharing your story.***

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